How to start therapy?

Starting therapy can feel daunting, and it might be hard to know where to start. I hope this can help answer some questions. Where to look for therapists? What to look for? How do you know if your therapist is right for you?

Starting the search

It may sound like a cliché, but the first step is the hardest. Once you've decided that you need therapy the information is fairly easy to come by, googling therapists in you area will take you to directories, websites and maps. Then you get to choose your therapist or counsellor. A lot of people use these titles interchangeably, neither of them is a protected title. Therapist directories often require that you have a minimum level of training to join, so if qualifications are important to you that might be a good place to start. Here is my page on one directory.

Directory page

Therapists are also usually part of an ethical body, like the NCPS or the BACP, to make sure that they are operating ethically. This is a lot of information so far but most therapists will adhere to these standards (I have my professional membership at the bottom of my website).

Making your choice.

Then you get to decide what's important to you in a therapist. This bit is much more personal. Do you want someone who has similar experiences to you? Do you want someone with loads of qualifications? Do you want someone who gives off a good vibe? Do you have a specific issue and do you want a therapist who specialises in this area? I would recommend thinking about this and going with your gut. A good feeling is going to help you get off on a good footing with your future therapist.

Some common considerations for clients are; Race, Gender, Cost, Expertise, and Location. They might not all be important to you but if they are the directories will be able to help you narrow this search. Another way of finding a therapist is to ask someone, more people know a therapist than you might think. Get a recommendation from someone you know, let the therapist know that's what you've done in case there is a conflict, but there are enough good therapists with slots to go around.

My next bit of advice in this step is to book an intro call, most therapists offer these for free. You will get a sense of them in that chat. They will have questions for you as a client so be aware that they may want to get to know you.

After you've chosen.

Finally, don't be afraid to try a few out. Some therapists may have expertise in different areas. All therapists will be different. You can look around until you find the right one. You don't need to choose a therapist and stick with them for life. If they aren't a good fit you can change. It may be a good idea to give them some time to build a relationship with you if you're on the fence.

This blog is only a guideline, it may not apply to all people in their search for therapy.